Downforce, and the first thing everyone gets wrong
Separating the effect from the mechanism that produces it.
The first thing everyone gets wrong about downforce is describing it as suction pulling the car toward the road, when what is actually happening is a pressure difference created by air moving at different speeds over different surfaces, a distinction that sounds academic right up until it is the difference between correctly predicting how a change to the car will behave and guessing wrong.
A push from the high-pressure side
Saying a wing or a floor sucks the car down describes the result accurately enough, since the car does get pressed harder into the road, but it explains nothing about the mechanism, and a description that only names the outcome cannot be used to predict what happens when something about the car changes. The actual mechanism is a difference in pressure between two surfaces, created because the air moving across one of them has been sped up relative to the other, and a faster-moving stream of air exerts less pressure on the surface it passes over than a slower one does. The car is pushed down by the higher pressure on one side harder than it is pushed up by the lower pressure on the other. Suction implies an active pull reaching out from the low-pressure side to grab hold of something, whereas the pressure picture describes a shove delivered entirely by the higher-pressure side, a distinction that matters the moment either side of that difference changes on its own.
Blowing across a strip of paper
Hold a strip of paper by one edge just under the lower lip and blow steadily across the top of it. Intuition says air blown over the paper should push it down, yet the strip rises toward the moving air. The moving air above the strip is at a lower pressure than the still air underneath, so the higher pressure underneath pushes the strip upward into the low pressure above. Thinking in terms of suction gives no reason to expect the paper to rise at all, which is exactly the reasoning gap that description papers over. Blow harder and the strip rises further and more decisively, just as the pressure-difference explanation predicts, since the moving air's pressure falls further below that of the still air waiting underneath.
Why halving the speed quarters the downforce
Getting the mechanism right changes what a designer expects when a variable is adjusted. A pressure difference created by relative air speed responds predictably to anything that changes those speeds: the gap between two surfaces, the angle of a wing, or the speed of the car itself. The suction description offers no reason why downforce should fall away sharply at low speed, or why it should depend so strongly on ride height, and both follow immediately from the pressure picture.
Speed shows it most clearly. The pressure difference a shape produces grows with the square of the speed of the air passing it, so a car at half its top speed makes only a quarter of its top-speed downforce, and at a third of its top speed, about a ninth. A slow hairpin taken at 40 km/h in a car that reaches 120 km/h on the straight is therefore driven with roughly a ninth of the grip the aerodynamics provide at the end of that straight. That result falls straight out of the mechanism, whereas under the suction description it would have to be memorised as an unexplained fact. Ride height follows the same logic. Lowering the floor narrows the gap the air has to squeeze through, the air speeds up to keep the same amount moving, its pressure drops further below the air above the car, and the shove from the high-pressure side grows, all without any need to imagine the road being pulled on.
When the shorthand is fine and when it is not
None of this makes the word suction wrong in casual conversation. It captures the felt sensation of a wing or a floor pulling a car toward the road well enough, and in a workshop a quick, familiar shorthand often communicates faster than a careful, technically complete sentence would. It stops being an acceptable substitute the moment a real decision has to be made, a wing angle chosen, a ride height set, or a change predicted before it is tested, because only the pressure-difference mechanism gives a basis for reasoning about what a specific change will do to the force. A new member of a team is usually forgiven for reaching for the shorthand over lunch, but is expected to switch to the pressure explanation the moment a design question is on the table, since the shorthand has nothing useful to say once a specific shape or setting needs deciding.